RAD Respite Training

by admin on August 26, 2011

This is an "advertisement" if you will, about a training opportunity for people interested in becoming respite providers for friends or relatives that have children with RAD (reactive attachment disorder). It is from my friend and fellow foster parent, as well as adoptive parent.

This isn't through the state or a part of DHS at all. It's simply a tool for people who have a heart to help those who are parents of RAD children.

For those of you that may not fully understand who a RAD child is, here is a great website to visit!


If after reading this, you are interested, please message me and I will forward you on the contact information.


I wanted to let you all know about respite training that is going on Sept 19th from 9 am to 1 pm in Ridgefield, WA at the home of one of the other respite moms. There is a big need for others to be trained in respite! Right now when we need respite, we drive to Vancouver! (from Mollala)

This is not respite like through the foster care system. This is learning how to deal with challenging kids who have Reactive Attachment Disorder & give the parents a break.

When RAD kids get disregulated, they behave poorly towards their families. They try to control everything. They lie. They whine or scream a lot. It’s really hard for the families. They say that there is an 85% divorce rate for parents of a kid with RAD—it is extremely stressful on a family.

Respite providers take that challenging kid for a couple of hours, an entire day, overnight, a few days, or, in extreme cases, several months. It’s all dependent on the respite provider and the child’s & family’s needs. These kids are really good at charming other people & making them think they are doing well. In respite training, you’ll learn how to see through the charm & understand the heart behind it all.

The goal of respite is to 1. give the parents a break so that they can breathe….So that they don’t get to a breaking point where they’re yelling at the child, etc….So that the family can have fun (because RAD kids love to create chaos out of anything fun, so the family misses out on fun a lot of the time).

And 2. for the child to work on his or her “issues.” They do chores for the respite family, “strong sit,” do jumping jacks, memorize and practice writing Scripture, etc. They feed the kids very boring, basic food (to teach them to be grateful for everything—and to make them want to earn their way back home to get good food).

Some respite providers do it for free as a ministry, most charge around $75 per day. So I should have started this out as an advertisement—-Want to earn $75 per day AND have your house cleaned for you? Go to respite training! :)

We use respite for our son N. He’s charming to all of you (he has the potential of being a very sweet boy but shows blatant disrespect and disobedience around here a lot of the time. He is a challenging kid to raise. :( We would love to have more options for respite providers that are closer to us than Vancouver!

Thanks for considering! Feel free to ask me if you have any questions!


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